Why cats bother people who hate cats

Maybe we have a friend or family member who doesn't like cats. They are always saying cats come around and bother them on purpose.

Is this true? Do cats know when someone doesn't like them, and they like to tease that person?

It can look that way. But cats aren't doing this on purpose. What we have here is people saying the wrong thing. They are trying to tell the cat to go away. But instead, they are saying, Come here, I want to be your friend, in cat language.

Cat-phobic people keep track of the cat from the corner of their eye.

They don't want to draw the cat’s attention, but they also don't want to lose track of where the cat is. But acting this way signals interest, to the cat.

They become very still and blink a lot as the cat gets closer.

Blinking and being quiet is how we signal the cat that we want to be friends.

They hold out their hand without moving it.

The cat-phobic person is trying to keep the cat away. But one of the most powerful things we can do to signal cat friendship is hold out our fist, for the cat to pet themselves on. This is very polite to the cat. This is what they think the "scaredy cat" is saying to them!

What can cat-phobic people do to make the cat go away? They can stare directly at the cat, say "I'm going to give you a big hug!" and wave their hands around like a little kid. Cats don't like that. They will go somewhere else.

Now we know how to make friends with a cat. And, how not to.




    Find out more Myths About Cats in my posts marked "mythbusting."

Cats need to explode: into action!

Why do our cats make this sudden transition?

This is our cat's hunting style. Lying in wait, and then ambushing the prey.

This helps us give our cats the right exercise. We might need this help: because cat exercise is the opposite of dog exercise.

Dogs need long walks. Cats need to chase, but they also need to ambush. We might get exasperated while we wait for our cat to attack, but they are setting up their ambush. This is important.

We need to offer, for cats or dogs, exercise that matches their hunting style. Dogs roam in packs and run down their prey. So they like to run for a long time, and chase things. Cats study their prey, figure out where they are going to be, and get there, first.

A cat's hunting style doesn't just explain why our cats "explode." It means they need to. In the wild, they would have continuous cycles of setting up a plan, then patiently waiting for THE TIME TO STRIKE!

When we watch our cat's behind wiggle and they leap with every bit of their stored energy, we are watching the "ninja" moves that make them such incredible hunters.

If we keep our cats exercised the right way, they won't try to release that energy by "being bad." They don't mean to be bad. They just need some help.

Watch me explain this process in my Herbal Cat Toy Video.





    Tempt our cat with the natural excitement, and gentle winding down, offered by a favorite herbal toy. When cats are calm and happy, it's a great time to pet them and get some cuddles in!

Cats in Groups

We don't have to be afraid of getting more cats.

Cat conflicts arise when we add cats "the wrong way." But when we do it the right way, we have a happy clowder of cats. Most cats enjoy having others of their own species around.

As seen here, my three year old Reverend Jim (far left, in back) enjoys treats on the cat tree with two year old Olwyn (on right, in foreground) and nine month old Tristan (top shelf.)

There's actually a lot of advantages to having more than one!

They don't get lonely. While cats are more than capable of being solitary, they do enjoy having playmates, minions, or mentors. Our latest kitten, Tristan, gets motherly supervision from Olwyn and big brother play from Reverend Jim. All things the humans in the house don't have to provide as much.

If we are leaving our cats alone all day, they might be perfectly content. Or, they might not.

Here's how to tell if our cat wants a companion.

They don't get bored. A misbehaving cat can be a bored cat. They like to chase and wrestle with each other. If we can't provide enough of this, they will seek it elsewhere.

While we can love playing with our cat, we just aren't as suited to rowdy play as another cat or kitten is. Just as we humans find many activities more fun when they are shared, so our cat can enjoy their day to day routines, more, if they have someone else to do them with.

Here's how to tell if our cat is bored.

They don't get isolated. We might not realize how much our cats adjust their behavior and their world view so they can live in our world.

We do not speak their language as well as another cat does, and we do not share the same interests so well. Looking out of the window is one thing; looking out of the window with another cat is much more fun.

To find out more, see all my posts on Cat Civilization.